The use of language can have significant effects on the body, energy system and subconscious. To minimise the impact, it is important to be clean and clear with the way language is used.
One of the most useful tools I was taught years ago was I language. I language is as the name suggests.
According to the Mirriam Webster Dictionary I is defined as a word/letter used by a speaker to refer to himself or herself.
You alternatively is defined by the Oxford Dictionary as the person or people that the speaker is addressing, used to refer to the person being addressed together with other people regarded in the same class.
Using I language involves simple adjustments to statements replacing you with I. I language has enabled me to not only own what I say, it has also allowed me to get clear about what others are also saying to me.
Have a look at the following simple statements which illustrate I language versus you language.
You language – You know how we are passionate about blah, blah, blah.
I language – I am passionate about blah, blah, blah, are you?
The first statement concludes that the listener is passionate as well, without there being a conscious choice in what has been said. It might well be that the listener is passionate, however they should have a choice in whether they agree with the statement.
With the second statement, the listener has a choice to decide whether they are passionate or not with the speaker also owning what is being said.
I language is respectful and empowering for all parties.
When included in you language statements, our subconscious hears what has been said which then may conflict with beliefs. Sometimes people use this collusion to make themselves feel better about the topic being discussed, or to dump their feelings on the listener.
Using the words “you know” during a conversation keeps the listener agreeing with what is being said, which is not always the case. If you don’t understand what is being said you can always say – no I don’t understand or know what you mean – can you please explain it further to me?
I hope this is making sense!
So, try using I language today in your conversations and observe the changes and clarity.
I love I language.